Life can be just like a book or a film. Whether your existence is filled with drama, comedy, fiction or fantasy, you are in charge of the structure of the chapters and scenes. But just as a story begins, it must also end. So in light of this thought, I chose closure as our favorite word for today. Closure can conjure up images of personal freedom and tranquility, but sometimes it sure can be a hard pill to swallow.
When a basketball player hits the game winning shot, that is good closure. If he clangs a deciding basket off the side of the rim and the time runs out resulting in a championship win for the other team, that my friends is the worst closure of all. But is it?
Sometimes when we say goodbye to a friend, family member, a job, a city, or see the sun setting on a dream the feelings we have inside duel and dance with one another. Even when you know that closing a certain door is healthy, wise and necessary for your growth, it can be one of the hardest things you ever have to do.
I am at a crossroads where I may have to do all of the aforementioned. Actually, I have already closed one door. It’s threatening to creak back open, but I must make the decision to keep it locked which will not be easy.
I can not let the fact escape me that I do feel a sense of calm which is overriding my sadness at this point and it’s a little scary. But I guess at times your mind and body know things that your heart hasn’t accepted yet.
Whatever door you decide to close in the future make sure you allow yourself the time to linger on the outside of it for a minute. Reflect on what you left inside and ask if you can truly live a more authentic, joy-filled and accomplished life not ever seeing what is behind the door again. Be totally honest in your answer. If you can, it is the closure you desperately need. Don’t look back. Move forward with the assurance that your future holds great treasures and trust that your past life experiences have prepared you to accept what is rightfully yours.
In some cases that tarnished silver you needed to leave behind may just turn up later in your life as a gold piece. But make sure in your time away that you’re developing your own sparkle. If the fates allow, you might be able to shine together one day. If not, no matter, you’ll still be a precious jewel.
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